Ok, so...I have a question for the masses:

What rules did you have when you first started, and what rules do you have now?

For my wife and I:

When we first started:

1) no kissing. It was "too intimate" to me. So I requested no kissing. Also, because we thought this was "swinging", she requested the same of me if we ever went with a couple.

2) condoms every👏single👏time👏. No excuses. We were (and still are) DDF.

3) no meeting with anyone alone.

4) no secrets

5) no shaming or humiliation

6) no scat or water play

7) no blowjobs

Currently:

1) canceled after her last bull

2) cancelled after her last bull

3) canceled after her last bull

4) no secrets still in play technically, but if she has them, I wouldn't know honestly.

5) no shaming, no humiliation

6) no scat/water play

7) canceled after her last bull

Basically, I saw her enjoyment with her last bull, and she BEGGED some rules to be lifted, so we did. IF we go with a cpl (haven't in years, and haven't looked) the original rules all still apply for me, and current rules apply for her.