Wife cheated with a close mutual friend after years of us fantasizing about other men during sex. When caught, after hours of talk said she wished I was there with them at times. She fucked him no condom and sucked and swallowed him multiple times over months. We patched it up and are in counseling. We have sex all the time and it’s become her on top of me smaking my cock with me calling her Queen and thanking her for the courage she had to have sex the way she did. We tell each other we are prepared for her to continue with other men but she always asks if I’m truly ready as she knows she is more ready than me. What I feel inside me is that if she was to cage me I think I could fully commit to her being with others at her own will and desire. I currently cage myself here and there. We have played together with it, she just isn’t really isn’t into it and doesn’t care for devices, aside from toys. Why is the cage so damn comforting? And why am I so certain that her having me wear it will enable me to let go so calmly?