Hi, we're an Atlanta based couple (M45,F33) that are pretty new to the lifestyle. I'm mostly a stag with some cuck tendencies, she's submissive and sexual and likes to feel desired and loves sex. We've just gotten into this and know that she needs a certain level of connection and after care from her bull. We also want someone who respects both of us and the overall relationship.

Anyway, we recently had an experience with a guy who she was hot for. The sex and night of was great for her, but in the days after he wouldn't or couldn't offer anything in the way of aftercare. Like he couldn't even be bothered to text her to tell her she was sexy and it was a great night. A week later he texted her a "you up" text and she invited him over. Again - same thing. They had great sex and a good night, but afterwards nothing.

The experience has thrown her off her game and now she's doubting if she wants to do it anymore because her feelings are hurt. A lot of her motivation for the lifestyle is to feel sexy and desired and the way this guy acts makes her feel the opposite. I just want her to be happy.

Is it reasonable to expect a bull to provide basic aftercare, after a night with her, or is that asking for things that would be covered in the context of a "relationship" so she shouldn't expect that?

Curious to know your thoughts.