Hey everyone- looking for some advice. I've been dating my boyfriend for a little under a year. Things are still pretty casual, but we have a good connection. When it comes to sex I've always been a "giver" for people that I care about, and knowing they're enjoying themselves has always gotten me off. Recently my boyfriend confessed to me that he's self conscious about his size and has been since before we started seeing each other. Long story short, he's been wanting to explore this (somewhat new) cuckold fetish with an actual person for a few months but has been working up the courage to share.

I'm actually honored that he would share this with me, even though I wasn't expecting it. I get the sense he's into some level of humiliation, but he was a bit vague about what exactly he's into when I asked him directly. Possibly he could just be unsure, but he's also not the best communicator when it comes to his own desires in the bedroom.

So I guess I have two questions:

1. In your experience, how many of you were content to keep things fantasy, versus wanting to make it a "reality." I've heard/read that guys can sometimes hyper-focus on this kink, I don't want to feed into it too hard up front and run the risk of one or both of us getting in too deep too fast.

2. As someone with no experience with big dicks (but certainly an appreciation of them) I want to be able to play into the fantasy while still being honest. One thing he said was along the lines of "I know you probably want someone bigger than me." But tbh I've never thought about it that hard. I feel like that's a turn off, but it's also honest. How can I be honest while also playing into this kink?