Especially if you both were mono before marriage, then after marriage can be any amount of time. You have become a cuckold marriage.

Do you both feel connected to each other? Like is that same connection that brought the two of you Still there ?

Like do you still hold secrets from the world about yourselfs and snuggle with each other.

Do you still say I love you with the same meaning? And not out of repetition

How much time is spent on this ? Have you turned into a FLR it does she still listen and submit to you in her living way she does .

For some reason I think it would change to where he still lives her or at least Want to live her the same ways . And from going shopping together to him doing all that now as she will be busy .

Yo almost a Fake marriage now that neither of them actually care about each other even to the point of living like neighbors and not even roommates.

Sleeping in different rooms and not eating anything together anymore. Basically becoming two separate people once again.

And that isn't even including the sex with others part yet.

Do you still know her / his favorite color ? What about food or places they like ?

I can't grasp this lifestyle beyond the separation of it . Sure the bull isn't going to be there 24/7 I get that part but still would be on her mind right and how can she handle being with two men unless she detaches from one of them . And being NRE will surely put that guy first in her head , so what's left for the husband?

He gets tired with out wife when she is home . And she won't want to do anything with husband after she was banged all night by the bull . she'll be too worn and sore and tired and she goes to bed leaving him between a rock and hard place .

Does he get it the next day ? Maybe or maybe not because the bull called or made plans for them to go have fun and she's getting ready to leave.

Maybe all husband gets is a kiss goodbye and don't wait up for her .

Then the weekend is over and she doesn't like sex during the work week and says on the weekend and he waits only yo realize her bull is coming over or she is going over to his place and the cycle repeats itself. Somewhere along the lines the NRE dies out and she dumps that bull and starts a new bull and the cycle never ends . Meanwhile poor hubby might have only had a hand job if he was lucky .

This scenario can go anyway and any amount of percentage of hubby's involvement, but still it is the same like being neighbors and not even as close to roommates, cause even roommates talk to each other and spend time with each other.

Am I over thinking?