Please let me know if wrong group, somewhat relavant.

So my wife (42) and I (42) been together 14 years (married 10) and have had a decent sex life. She is a very sexual person and so am I so have been lucky.

Recently I have had some suspicions about her going out alot with her friends, late nights at work and extended gym sessions. She has a history of cheating in the past early on in our relationship but we worked through it all, haven't suspected anything until late. The same signs were there.

Long story short I found out just over the last couple days my wife is in fact cheating, there is a difference this time though. Now, I find it a massive turn on and don't want her to stop, but I also don't won't her sneaking around. Afraid if I approach her about it she may feel guilty and stop or judge me for enjoying it.

I found out through snooping through her phone (plz don't judge me here, turns out to be justified). The messages and pictures I saw have given me numerous hard ons to which I have enjoyed.

I think this means I'm turning into a cuck, I enjoy the humiliation aspect of it and how much she enjoys this other guy. I also feel like I'd enjoy watching in real her taking a bigger alpha man

I think ultimately I have to confront her I know this, just gotta find the right moment and time.

Love to hear other perspectives, either from similar married men, maybe the vixens or even the bulls out there. D M open.