40/m here. Over the last year or two I have learned that I really enjoy the fantasy and idea of seeing my wife with another man. Through many hours of reflection I know this is something I want to explore with her. I have brought it up to her on a few occasions and she does not want to pursue it. Caused by her religious background and nervousness about being with another man (I think) as she only was with one other man before we started dating 17 years ago. I don’t want to push too har, i love her and it’s not worth damaging our relationship. We have added more and larger toys to our bedroom play and I internally act out these scenarios with the toy as a prop for another man. I am sure not the same but works to some degree. What I am looking for is support on other ways to maybe increase our fantasy play, both for me and longer term for her too. Perhaps one day it will lead to more but I will take what I can get while keeping it just us.