Married to a cuckquean. This has absolutely happened to me multiple times... more when I was single. It has still occurred, there is the two strike rule. Mention it, you get counseled and told not to do it again. Second time, I'm out. I'm not ugly about it. But I have ended a small number of relationships because it was clearly interfering with their marriage. I'm not out to hurt anyone and I'm not leaving my spouse over it.

As I told my wife, why would I want to leave the woman who is excited to share me for a woman that wants me all to herself? The grass is always greener, but just as hard to mow.

If you want to set yourself up for success:

1) Date happily married men with enthusiastically consenting wives. We aren't leaving a happy home or getting a divorce to run off with your wife. Their wife isn't gonna cause problems because she enthusiastically consents. Cuckqueans are the best for this.

2) Get a therapist for both you and your wife familiar with ENM and Cuckolding. They aren't there to judge you, they are there to help guide you through the minefield. Trust me, just about everyone will benefit from it. I know that I have.

3) Make the rules of engagement absolutely clear at the onset. In my experience the only rules that really hold well are ones on the following topics:

SEXUAL HEALTH: STI tests and birth control along with sexual exclusivity (we only fuck each other and our partners & they remain monogamous)

MARITAL STABILITY: No fucking with the marriage - Any let's run off together talk is met with a brick wall. No bitching about spouses (I don't want to hear it - tell your therapist). Absolutely no disrespect or mistreatment of either spouse. I've had wives get ugly unfairly to their husbands and I don't abide it. One made an ugly comment about my own wife and I was like "DONE."

SAFETY: Spouse knows who I am with (their true identity), where I am going, when I expect to be back, who all will be there, what I will be doing and with whom. No substance abuse.

Rules and restrictions about kissing, number of dates in a month, taking pictures, barring sexual activity not done with you, video recording, or being present to watch and jack off - all gonna lead to problems. Mainly because these rules are based in fear and insecurity. And if you are fearful and insecure, this isn't the lifestyle for you.

You can create any rules to suit your situation, but the fact is that unless they are common sense and reasonable rules - they won't protect you and are largely unenforceable.

I think the biggest detriment to cucks is that they don't speak with a therapist before embarking on a life changing journey to get a lay of the land and know what to expect. They've got time and money for cuckold porn subscriptions though. Lol!

********OP- If your wife is done, then let it be done. You are wise not to encourage her to push past it. She just had a serious break up and it was heartbreaking for her in a lot of ways. She doesn't regret choosing you either, but she just lost someone. It'll take months and years to get over.

Does she have a therapist? There are some that specialize in non-monogamous relationship dynamics. They won't bat an eye at her situation. They've seen it dozens if not hundreds of times before.