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I will preface by saying, the men who actually come clean and tell their SO that they want this are some of the bravest men in the world. I don’t believe I would ever be able to come clean and say I wanted this to my wife.
Since everything cuckold related is fantasy/porn related to me, it may be a lot different but to me I’ve always had low confidence despite being good at almost everything. I’m tall, fit, highly educated, high wage earner, but for some reason I’ve always been a shy, timid, doormat guy that is afraid of any conflict. So for me, it screams that this fetish is a direct result of that, and then by indulging in it, all I am doing is creating a feedback loop.
Do any of you cucks really not see yourself as low confidence males?
"Fucker of many husbands' wives" perspective -
Over half of my cucks have suffered from severe erectile dysfunction of a physical nature (not psychological). Beta blockers and antidepressants robbed them of their ability to fuck their wives. These guys are usually 35-50 , with younger spouses. They think it's shitty to deprive the wife of sexual intercourse for the next 40 years because their equipment failed.
They didn't become cucks out of low self esteem. Sure lots of cucks do. But it's not the only source of cuckolding out there.
Some cucks are compersionists and just want to see their wives happy. They outsource sex because they love their spouses and don't want them to do without. Imagine loving someone so much that you want them to get what they need EVEN if another MAN fulfills that requirement for the wife.
There are other cucks that feel guilty because they've had lots of sexual partners and their wife has only been with them. They don't want the wife to miss out on a full life filled with great sexual experiences and connections. Imagine loving someone without conditions? Wanting them to live their fullest life and not hold themselves back for you? These are the healthiest, strongest people I know. I respect them endlessly.
As for the TOXIC cucks... that's another story. I fully believe that these often racist shit heads are the result of mainstream cuckolding porn. It's not a result of low self esteem. It's an inability to control their impulses and dependance on dopamine saturation.
Could be me, but I've met 100 cucks in person. Never once found a healthy cuckold that watched cuckolding porn.
EVERY SINGLE TOXIC cuck was porn addicted. I think porn has more to do with turning regular men into the toxic unhealthy cucks that are so prevalent today.
It is not fair to say that this lifestyle is the result of low self esteem. I think many bulls could get their own date if they wanted to.
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All good points. I think the issue is that toxic cucks may have their ideologies based in the shit show that is cuckold porn, but it's their own outlooks and behaviors that make them toxic. Porn is a catalyst that can magnify those unhealthy behaviors.
Toxic cuckolds are the asshats that think of the wife as property (kink dispenser), are only into it because it gets them off, are selfish, controlling, whiny, pushy, manipulative and just horrible people who lack any character or redeeming virtues. The majority of cucks that I've met or come across are toxic. If someone exhibits these behaviors they are toxic in my opinion. Could i go through every possible exception and variation to be all inclusive? Sure. But I'm not going to go through that effort to go from 99% correct to 100%. My time is valuable. So I'll say there are some rare exceptions and that everyone's circumstances are different. If you don't fit the scenario then you don't fit it.
Insofar as the only fans couples, they aren't in it for the lifestyle. They are in it too make money. They push whatever toxic bullshit sells. People mistake these couples as having an "ideal" relationship. But it's all acting, scripted, and make believe. Maybe there are authentic couples in only fans... but I've yet to hear of any. It's about money for them.
And let me be clear, I'm not shaming anyone for being a sex worker. Rock on if you can get pathetic people to pay to watch you have sex. I'd do the same, but i would fail because i'd show all the aspects of the dynamics. People don't really want to see reality. It would make their dicks go soft.
Edit: just as there are toxic cucks, there are also toxic bulls. The one you ran into was a good example of one.