My wife is a dominant cuckquean. She's a female cuckold/female stag. She asked me to sleep with other women. It was her idea. Almost ended our marriage. Just like male cuckolds, they don't want to have sex with others.

She chooses my partners. She runs my sex life. I told her that if she wants this, she had to call the shots because i cannot deal with the responsibility or anxiety of overstepping with her.

It has been very good for our marriage. But it did almost end it, because i had a very hard time accepting it. Lots of therapy helped.

She has absolutely been with other people before we got together. I needed therapy because I was upset she wanted me to sleep with other people. Therapy was to try to save my marriage. The primary reason I fuck other women is for her happiness. Everything else is nice and great. But she is not lacking in anyway.

Yes, I needed someone to help me understand that my wife wanting me to sleep around wasn't me being unwanted, devalued, pawned off, or a horrible person. Not all guys, even one's like me who have been bulls/thirds earlier in life, want that to be part of their lives. I needed a therapist to help me cope and understand things. She is my soulmate, it made me question whether I was hers.

The therapist helped me to understand about setting boundaries better, having solid communication, explained what to expect, how to prepare, etc.

People think for guys, it's a panacea. That being a shared husband is the end all be all... where do I pin the luckiest guy in the world badge on him kind of thing. It's not.

For some of us it's heartbreaking. For some of us, we need so much reassurance. I know there are hotwives that are reading this right now and are saying to themselves... "Yup, I feel his pain, confusion, upset, hesitancy, etc."

I agreed to do it once I felt our relationship was secure. It was about a year from the initial convo. It was on my terms. At my pace. She had to accept responsibility and I required she get a therapist to process any of the emotional upset she was likely to experience. And there was... she definitely is thankful she had a therapist well versed in the lifestyle we are now in.

Lots of people think it's easy, but it's just not that easy for guys. You're essentially asking them to leave an incredibly good thing that you are happy with, and risk everything for something they don't even really want. Really? I have to re-enter the dating world? No thank you. I asked my wife if she knew how long I had to search to find her? This is hard for a lot of us shared husbands. It's not a utopia at all for many of us.