Basically the title. We've been married for 12 years. We're both late 30s. I been interested in threesomes, gangbangs, cuckold for about 6-7 years. One day I just randomly sent a text saying I would enjoying a mfm. And at first she said she didn't know. A few months later I brought it up again and asked if she had thought about it, she said sure if that's what I wanted. The problem is we have several kids in sports, I work nights, and we don't have much of a social life. How do we go about finding a 3rd? What I've gathered from this group is that finding a 3rd is a hassle and a half. Where do I start looking? How do I screen them? How can I tell someone isn't going to flake? Thanks in advance.