Hello! Thank you in advance for reading my post.

My partner and I have been slowly exploring cuckold community/kink together and as I’m the one out of the two of us who is new to this, I figured I’d seek out advice. Specifically, I’m coming on here to get advice, ideas, etc on MY own so it’s more of a surprise for my partner. I want to feel confident in understanding the psychological aspect of this stuff, and being able to come up with my own rules, expectations, confidently talking about the kink, etc. Now don’t get me wrong, my partner and I have spoken extensively on this topic but we both agree that there is no harm in doing independent research, seeing what others have to say, what ideas they come up with and use it as inspiration, etc. I’ve been scrolling and reading across forums, but I want to make my own post as well since we kind of have a unique situation.

Recently we discussed the idea of setting up rules for this year for my partner to follow. They sent me a post that I believe was made to this subreddit, and it was a list of a wife’s monthly rules for her cuck husband. I thought it was great! The only problem, my partner and I are long distance. Like across an ocean long distance. And this list of rules was made for a couple that lives together, or at least is able to see each other regularly. We both work busy jobs (I have two jobs, they have one stressful job). But I still want to set rules for them. It is possible for us to play into this kink from far away while between visits to see each other.

One rule I managed to think of was that when I go on dates, my partner is only allowed to see and use any pictures or videos I’ve taken during the date once they’ve caged themselves for 2 hours. They’d prove it by sending continued update pictures until I was satisfied. Thoughts?

I am really interested in better understanding this kink because I love it, and it was my partner who brought me into it. But I’m just drawing a blank on ideas, and I’m tired of feeling too shy and nervous to dive head first.

Other questions I have that anyone is welcome to answer:

What’s the best way to find and meet with new bulls in person? Is there a best way? Is it just trial and error?

Advice on how to play into the humiliation aspect? I’m terrible at the dirty talk and tend to overthink it, which takes my partner out of the headspace.

Any help or advice at all is greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time!