There have been a few posts recently about post nut clarity and how difficult it can be to eat one’s own cum while in this mental state. It got me thinking about the biological reasons for this post nut clarity.

Before I go on, I will point out that I’m not saying eating your own cum is something required by all cuckolds. It’s just one of many switches that people prefer to flip on or off in their kinky fuse box.

After doing some google searches I found a GQ article that states the following:

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the part of our brain that is probably most active during arousal and orgasm is the part of the brain called the limbic system. The limbic system is responsible for anxiety and aggression, but also emotional regulation and hormone release.

This is very interesting to me for a number of reasons...
Firstly, that the limbic system may be what is responsible for sexual aggression in bulls, lovers, alphas, whatever you want to call the men who give our wives such great sexual pleasure. When these types of men are aroused, it increases their desire to slide their cocks into our girlfriend and wives, sometimes even planting their seed deep inside. This is usually not a violent form of aggression but it still represents an instinctual urge to show dominance over cuckold men by fucking the women they love and violating or claiming that sacred territory as their own, even if just for the moment.
But the limbic system is also responsible for regulating anxiety. Perhaps in men who are cuckolds, it’s not the aggression that gets triggered as much as it as anxiety being quashed by that same limbic system. The same system that drives one man to take married women as lovers drives cuckolds to accept it. The jealousy and angst that a “stereotypical man” would feel when his spouse is having sex with someone else is driven away.
Is there an evolutionary purpose for this? Is this a biological mechanism that’s been building up for millions of years?
Perhaps, as part of natural selection, our species evolved for all men to be some degree of type A or B. Perhaps men who tend to cheat, who are lovers, bulls, and “alphas” are in the A category. Their limbic systems evolved to be more aggressive and naturally pre-disposed to fuck multiple women.
On the contrary, men who are cuckolds evolved with limbic systems in the B category. These men’s limbic system drives away that sense of anxiety, allowing their wives to procreate with the best possible mate without interference.A sort of symbiosis between the two types of men is formed.
But what does any of this have to do with post nut clarity?

As cuckolds, when we are aroused the limbic system makes us “drunk”. Anxiety and jealousy are suppressed and we are willing to do almost anything. We allow other men to fuck our wifes, cum inside our wives, we eat other men’s cum, and sometimes promise to eat our own cum.

But once we cum, even the truest of cuckolds reach a “sober” moment. The limbic system suddenly disengages and that angst and anxiety and jealousy can come flooding back. This is why men are often hesitant to follow through with the promises they make pre-nut.

This impacts not only our willingness to eat our cum but also the feelings we have about our wives fucking another man. In my personal experience, this is a somewhat dangerous psychological condition to be in. Anger and jealousy can take hold in this moment and it’s important to push that back down as quickly as possible for the sake of my own marriage as well as my wife’s long term prospects for the sexual pleasures that other men give her.

For me, personally, this is one of the reasons I feel it’s so important to have a strategy to manage this “sobriety”, which can happen during post nut clarity, but also can happen in day to day life when you aren’t aroused at all and thoughts of your wife with another man enter your mind.

In these sober moments jealousy and anxiety can take hold. I’ve often thought “I don’t want to do this anymore” or “I have to stop this” in those moments. The emotional part of my brain wants to end her relationship with her lover but the logical part knows I will want them to continue once I am aroused.

One strategy I have used in these moments is edging and/or reducing or eliminating the frequency of my orgasms. For prostate health I know I need to ejaculate occasionally, but I’ll sometimes depend on the logical part of my brain to kick in and start focusing on thoughts that arouse me. Sometimes videos or images help too. I don’t need to get anywhere close to orgasm for this to work. I only need to be slightly aroused for that limbic system to kick in to run interference, ensuring that my wife and her lover will continue fucking for as long as they want.

When it comes to eating my own cum, which I have done a number of times. I’ve found that I again have to count on the logical part of my brain to tell me that I’m going to want this again and therefore I need to follow through and do a good job cleaning up my mess. Usually about halfway through my cleanup I’ve become accustomed to the taste, my wife is moaning in pleasure from my tongue, I start to get aroused (even if still not hard), and my limbic system comes to the rescue once again.

So I guess at the end of this rambling and long post I have accepted that there is a biological driver to my desire for my wife to fuck other men. I evolved this way. It’s the way that my body’s limbic system works, which is very important to help satisfy men who’s limbic systems work in the opposite way. Then, in the middle is my wife, getting all the sexual pleasure and release that she wants.

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