So my wife and I have an open relationship (somewhat). Her ex has been our Bull. And she’s been addicted to him. I support that and have been enjoying that too along the way.

We had a baby recently (it’s mine, that’s not the point of discussion). But as with kids and kinda fucked family and other issues we are questioning our marriage etc. there have been discussion of separating or other possibilities.

Two things 1. Whenever we discuss about marriage/separation that there’s always a point about not being the “real man”

1. No matter how bad the fight is or how bad the discussion is, I am always aroused in some way.

We have real love for each other, but a lot of different perspective on life. So it’s not the question about not being in love, it’s more like “man of the house” and “arousal”

Why thoughts or comments or suggestions?