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Title is self explanatory.

A quick bit of history. Meet my wife a good while ago back when we were roommates. At the time she was a confident assertive woman who was my roommate.

She expressed interest in sharing more than rooms. So we became a thing at home. I was informed though that she had a boyfriend and a very good "friend". We were all aware of each other for a bit and our roles while not explicit we knew what parts we played given her nature. Even became friends with one of them. She had her variety and we each brought something to the table.

Done time passes by and one by one they drop, I even stopped being a roommate but had our routine. Eventually I was last man standing and was invited behind the velvet rope. We became even more of a thing. The now ex boyfriend still took her every now and again but faded eventually.

More time passes and we get married for a noble reason initially but apparently we were in love with each other and didn't realize it fully.

More time passes by. She apparently starts developing the "Itch" that needs to be scratched again. Friends birthday cones around and we wine and dine. We come back home and have a few drinking games. Ended up doing a shot off her chest and nipple in plain view grabbed my dick and sends me to wash up. Come back and he does a shot off of her. She sees me pulls out my dick and starts sucking on it in front of h him.

Rest of the evening is eventful, you get the idea. Unfortunately he was not even average so even though we had fun the experience was not what she expected. Tried setting something with the ex to tag team but was out of country. Tried going to a swinger but were not taking additional members.

Life happens. We have a kid she grows cold ended up being sick for a few years. Between the baby and the illness she gained weight. Still love her and don't body shame her.

Recently confessed to her that what we did was hot in the past and would love to team up or watch. She starts going through Reddit, she's saving images and shows interest again and her drive starts to climb.

Then the interest plateaus. Shes worried about her weight and looks. She's sexy and not just by my standards. She still has a boyfriend from way back that you could say is still waiting for her to come back. She knows what she wants and can be assertive. But her looks have her being overly self critical. She looks better than others in the age group she reflects.

Getting to point, as we have had experience in the past before she got sick. What she has keeps the weight on her. Believe me we tried.

We are not a "C" humiliation type couple and are of the stag/vixen MFM types.

Seeking advice:

Women who are plus size 150-250 (depending on stature), how receptive have men been to your perfect imperfections?

Men, how receptive are you to normal full bodied women?

I want her to love her self more and get back that full on confidence she had before. It's something I believe is core to her personality based on stories and my life experiences with her. She is definitely game but thinks she needs to be slim to accepted. "what other man would want me that's not out of pity".

Last bit of context, before she was sick she was an athlete, big on going to the gym and I'm sure all guys say this but she stopped traffic and had done modeling.

Do need help here. Thank you for making it this far.