Has anyone faced a situation where their wife cried during sex because it wasn’t good. My wife and I have been in an on off cuck-Hotwife play with one of her exs.

When it’s just her and I, 95% of the time our sex includes fascination about him. Saying his name or talking about him, using dildos etc. and we both enjoy it.

Last few times we have tried our vanilla sex, which has ended into her crying or both of us dissatisfied and disappointed as it only lasted for few seconds and mins. We have lost that power and passion of sex and solely get satisfaction with him or cuckolding.

Has anyone healed through it?

P.S. I’ve talked to some therapists and they have mentioned why change it into something that you are not and why not enjoy what you like right now. Before we discovered this side of hours, we had pounding sex. What changed? How to heal? Do we need to heal?