Many years ago, my wife had engaged in an emotional affair with another man. When I found out about it I was crest-fallen. I felt all the typical emotions - jealousy, rage, depression, self-doubt. To this day, I don't know if it ever became physical, although at the time she denied that it had. We ended up in couples therapy and both decided to stay in the marriage. Today we are in a good place, in love with one another. In the intervening years, my self-image has been slowly morphing. My self confidence was shattered back then, and subsequently I began to develop submissive tendencies. Over the past several years I keep toying with the idea of suggesting a hot wife or cuckold relationship, but haven't had the gumption to talk with her about it. It's not something that I would just want to jump into, but I can envision being out together having a drink and asking her to take a look around and pick out a guy that she finds attractive enough to flirt with. I would do the same with a woman first to break the ice. Just us talking about it at first. And maybe in time seeing if she would like to flirt for real, while I slide away to watch. Maybe that's a good way to start - to see if we can both handle it without diving right in. Do any of you have thoughts or advice?