My boyfriend wants to watch me fuck another guy. Neither my boyfriend or I were aware we had a kink for cuckolding until some dirty talk one night.

Since then it’s almost all my boyfriend fantasizes about during sex, there’s always some element of dirty talk that revolves around me fucking another guy.

First, I am not opposed to the idea. It’s not a kink I’d say I entertained before, but seeing how turned on my boyfriend gets and thinking/fantasizing/talking about different scenarios is a massive turn on for me.

My boyfriend has assured me we can take this as far as I’m comfortable and as slowly as I need. He had explicitly stated that if this never happens it won’t change how he feels about me. But relative to a lot of cuckolding couples—I assume—this is a new relationship. I’m somewhat on the fence: I really like my new boyfriend so I don’t want this to ruin the relationship, but this is a massive fantasy that I want to explore and he feels safe to explore it with. I’m nervous or hesitant because I struggle with the idea of asking a third person to join in on what we both consider a monogamous relationship. How is it the boundaries don’t get muddied?

I am submissive, my boyfriend is dominant…except when it comes to this fantasy. He tells me what to do, when, what positions, what porn to watch etc. and I love it. But what gets him off is me telling him that a bull will fuck me better than he ever could, that he would have to watch someone else enjoy me, that he wouldn’t measure up. So clearly he’s enjoying some submissive aspects of this, and I’m enjoying some dominant aspects which has never worked for me before.

Will my boyfriend look at me differently? During sex my boyfriend talks just as much about how beautiful he thinks I am, how beautiful I’d be while fucking another guy, how he wants to take care of me after, and during, how he wants me to get fucked in the way I deserve.

I also worry because most of our talks about this happen in the midst of foreplay/sex. Should we be having a sit down conversation?

So far I’ve flirted with guys on kink-friendly apps, and subsequently sent photos via Snapchat. I’m supposed to video call a guy tomorrow. I’ll be staying at my boyfriend’s apartment, using his room, he will be downstairs, and then I’ll tell him about it after. I’m not ready to meet anyone in person yet.

I’m looking for advice as far as how much conversation should he and I be having? How does this change a relationship? Did you look at your girlfriend/wife differently? Did you like them more/less after? What were ways you eased into things? Basically anything you might think is absolutely need to know, or coming off as a red flag, I’m happy to hear it.

I’m pretty sex-positive, but this is uncharted territory. I’d rather the experience strengthen our relationship than hurt it.

Thanks