As a single male, I often question how far this sexual preference should guide my early relationship decisions.

Is it a requirement for me and I should seek only partners who are compatible? How early do I share these fantasies to not waste someone’s time? ….but also, is a girl not more likely to entertain cuckolding if they have a long-time established relationship with trust and communication?

I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years that ended because I was bored and frustrated sexually. I think the fantasies arose because I wanted to give her anything I could to make things interesting. She wasn’t interested at all despite us having a deep connection.

But even years later I don’t think I’d enjoy sex without some form of submission, cuckolding, denial, and humiliation play.

I’m decently attractive and go on a few dates per month, and I’m surprised how many women I meet are open to it…but also I feel like when they learn about this so early they lose respect or interest.

I’ve watched it multiple times where I’ll start out traditional and dominant and the out-of-bed relationship feels great and respectful. But as soon as we experiment with me being submissive I feel disrespected outside of bed and that makes me lose interest in them.

It feels like a pattern with the handful of opportunities I’ve had these past few years.

I guess my real question is…why don’t women treat me well even outside the bedroom once they’re dominant?

Would love a girl that compliments me, buys me meals, and generally treats me the way I’ve treated submissive girls in the past. It’s like they want the best of both worlds and it’s making me feel like there’s no one out there for me.

Am I being ridiculous?