First of all, my husband and I are not in a cuckold relationship. We’re fantasizing about a DStag/svixen dynamic, but we’re not there yet and maybe we’ll never get to that point.

Why post in a cuckold sub then, you might wonder? Well, this sub has fascinated me for a while now and it’s made me uncomfortable and feel aroused to no extent. But most of all it has openend my eyes, made me change my perspective and ideas about love and relationships.

Above all, it showed me people with an ability to be vulnerable in a way I never thought possible. Cucks, you’re an inspiration to me and an example for many of us by showing how you embrace yourselves, accept all of yourselves and ALL the feelings that go with that. Cuckoldresses, you’re an inspiration to me and an example for many of us by showing how to be an independent woman who embraces her pleasure and push boundaries of societal norms and traditional relationships.

It’s exactly that extend of vulnerability that made me so uncomfortable because I don’t like to be vulnerable. Not at all. I could happily live in a world where vulnerability would mean “stuff we’re all ok with not talking about”. But even though I don’t like it, it’s something that I need to learn to be able to live my life to the fullest. I want to learn how to feel comfortable with all of me, not only the shiny parts that I like to show off. Because I also realize that it’s the only way to deepen my relationships and experience true happiness.

Let me circle back to the title of my post. Ever since my husband and I started talking about our sexuality, fantasies and our D/s relationship, we’re forced to go deeper than ever before. That requires a level of vulnerability I’ve never reached before with someone, not even myself in most cases. Radical honesty sucks from time to time, but it’s so liberating to not hold back anymore. The amount of trust I feel with my husband to be able to share my deepest insecurities, my darkest thoughts and take my mask off completely is something that only he gets.

That’s it. That’s the thing my husband gets from me that I could never give someone else.

And not only because he’s the only one I want to share this side of me with, but also because once I’ve shown my vulnerability it becomes less vulnerable. I’ve come to accept that part of me. It empowers me. So when I would share some of this stuff with others, it still would not be the same gift I give my husband simply because it doesn’t ask me to go as deep as I did with him.

Again, why would you post this in a cuckold sub then, you might wonder? Well, again and again I read stories about wives falling in love/lust with their third and how that is supposed to threaten the relationship between her and her husband. But is that really the case?

The amount of trust and radical honesty that’s needed to embark on a cuckold journey or any ethical non-monogamy relationship in that case, is an ultimate gift from both partners to each other. Nothing could take that away. Nobody could make that gift less valuable. It creates a bond that not many couples get to experience and that is yours only.

Still, it takes work from both partners to keep that trust, cherish this gift and honor your bond. That is a non-negotiable to feel secure and confident enough to be able to see that what “the other” gets is different. Not better, not more important, not more valuable. Different, that’s all. And, with this reasoning it’s also easier to see that “the other” is in the same boat and will never get what you have.

This goes both ways in my opinion. Both the husband and the wife are responsible for honoring what they have. That’s also the difference between “knowing” all of this and “feeling” it. Or better yet, without the second in place, the first is in danger.

These are some revelations and thoughts about my relationship and the importance and depth of it to me.

What are your thoughts about this?

Can you see how special and extraordinary your relationship with your spouse is?

Do you celebrate it enough or could you do better?

What makes you feel loved and treasured?