I have had the good fortune to have hotwives, cuckolds and bulls reach out to me on Reddit to discuss this lifestyle in general, and their own experiences, as well as advice. I was having a conversation recently and I feel like I should post these opinions publicly.

I am still trying to win over my wife to be a hotwife. She has recently made a lot of comments about sexual thoughts about black men, as well as men more sexually dominant than me, which she had never done before, and she had recently enjoyed black man-white married woman porn with me, something she had never done before. It's too late for us to breed because we have our two kids already, but I think it would have been a good option for us, I'll circle back to that after. My wife has doubts about betraying her wedding vows to me and about going out and meeting other guys both online and in bars, etc, to be very dangerous as she assumes that we will meet dangerous men, stalkers, aggressive men, etc. I do think there are always risks in everything, but even in traditional dating and hooking up. It's about being careful. Hoping to get her there soon. I think deep down inside she is thinking about it.

First, I believe that this lifestyle is a legitimate sexuality, not a fetish or a kink, not even just a fantasy (although it is just fantasy for some people).

With that in mind, my hope is that some day, it will be accepted much more in the mainstream, as currently you can easily find things in the media (and especially social media) condemning this lifestyle as "sinful," as a violation of marriage or the nuclear family, and as "sick," or just insulting jokes about it. Does this sound familiar for another sexuality? This is what people used to think and say about gay people. Over generations, as it became more and more clear that gay people did not chose to be this way, are not "sick" and aren't going to change, or hurt anyone else because of their sexuality, they have become more widely socially accepted within society and more people than ever are comfortable both admitting this about themselves and about entering that lifestyle instead of abstaining from it in fear of being a pariah. There are still some homophobic people, but it's much lower now. This is what I am hoping will happen for the cuckold lifestyle (including pregnancy) as these same things become obvious about the sexuality.

With that in mind, I don't think it's biologically correct for a woman to only have sex with her husband or for her husband to be the only option to get her pregnant. In the animal kingdom, the female choses the strongest Alpha Male with the strongest genes, and biologically this is what the human body wants and needs too, both for sexual pleasure and making babies. It's not a violation of the marriage, it's having a family using the best possible sperm for the healthiest children possible, or letting the wife have sexual satisfaction that will make her emotionally more happy and will actually make the marriage better.

Naturally there are exceptions where marriages end over this, but I don't think that's the norm.

Back to my would-be (and should-be) breeding situation with my wife. I love her for being loyal and wanting kids with me, but I think nature was trying to tell us something as above mentioned when I could not get her pregnant naturally. My sperm was not meant to give her babies. I still would have been the dad if another man was the biological father. I asked my wife to consider having another man get her pregnant, and she did keep an open mind, but instead wanted to try IVF before considering that. It did not work right away, but in the end we had 2 kids that way. I love my kids, I wouldn't change them, but I did pass on some genetic things to them that I wish I didn't (I will not elaborate as they are my kids, but I will say, they are OK). If my wife had chosen a stronger alpha male with stronger sperm and genes, I think the outcome would have been different - and much more fun and pleasurable than the expensive, unnatural intrusive and uncomfortable process that is IVF.

People have been using sperm donors for generations, and before the medical option of artificial insemination, I'm sure couples had another man have sex with the wife to get her pregnant, just not in a cuckold way.

But if we had done this, we would have to keep it private or else just say that we used a sperm donor, since society puts taboo on this, even our own family and friends would be shocked and look down on both of us. For this reason we would have had to chose a white guy to hide it better.

But what if a black guy (which seems to be my wife's sexual desire lately) could give her a healthy strong baby? Why is that wrong? Why does this have to be looked upon the way it is? Why couldn't this be something that is seen as "okay" in society and in family/social circles? Shouldn't be anyone's business anyway. I don't know how serious BNWO is or if it's just fantasy, but I do think white women having black babies, including married white women, will continue to increase. Another strong and naturally correct option is a very young guy getting my wife pregnant. A 19 year old guy would have more stamina and be more fertile than me and would also be a good choice to get my wife (or anyone's wife) pregnant.

I actually am a religious and somewhat traditional person overall, but not all of the "values" and "norms" created by religion or society as a whole are correct, and many of them have been reconsidered over time. It's my hope that that will be the case for this lifestyle. As well as the stereotypes about it (I am turned on by the idea of a physically and sexually superior man having sex with or even impregnating my wife, but I'm not interested in being humiliated, bullied, shamed, being caged or cut off from sex, some people call that a stag, I think I'm somewhere in my own little place on the cuckold-stag spectrum).

I'm sure many of you will agree or have your own points or counter points on this.

And for those already living this sexuality out, including those having babies this way, I am happy for you, I admire your open minded bravery, and I'm a little jealous. Hopefully my wife and I will get there soon enough.

Feel free to send me a chat.