My wife and I have kids naturally but have struggled painfully with the latest effort. Years of no success, lots of miscarriages and lots and lots of tears. We badly want another child.

Last year, we spent into the six figures on IUI, IVF, and surrogacy. All of which have failed. TheDoc are useless, have no guesses, and frankly we don’t trust them anymore. We feel like they just want us stuck in a endless loop of hormones and out of pocket expenses.

We want to keep trying but do it a more old fashioned way. We don’t really think it’s my sperm that is off, but to test that, I want my wife to be bred by multiple men while ovulating (not necessarily same time, but prob same day or so). I am tall, mediterrrean, and dark featured (in case volunteers are out there). If she can get pregnant naturally, we’d be psyched and we would expect 0 from the dad.

If that fails, we are searching for a woman who wants to be a coparent and wants to help us grow our fam. My wife is Jewish, fair, brunette.

Has anyone ever done anything like this before? Any advice? We feel like if it were 100 years ago and we had the same problem, this is what we’d be doing so it feels natural. We are both healthy, well educated, and financially stable. Based on the Northeast US.

Would love any comments or DMs from folks who can help us with ideas of advice. 🙏