He asked my wife a week ago and has been asking every day if she will join him. I figure they talked more about it last night when he came over to see her. (She only wants to see him when I am not home and since I work a few nights a week, it works for them. They used to cuck me when he would come over nights I was home, but she prefers solo time with him. I have been told that I mess up their chemistry. Plus she no longer wants me to be a cuck). She only told me about it this morning over text. Except for him sleeping over one night, she has really only spent a few hours at a time with him, of course naked and of course doing things with him she never even discussed with me. (that's for another time)

He had mentioned her joining him on his work trips to her in the past and she asked him to let her know as soon as he knew the next time he was traveling. So she has been thinking about it.

She is worried that the reality of spending that much time with him will not live up to her fantasy of a few days away at a hotel with just him. As we all know, traveling with someone is a true test of getting along and patience, of which my wife has little to none.

IF she were to go, I would have to change my vacation time as my schedule does not work if I am the only parent. She can work remote, so that is not an issue for her. She might also be changing jobs soon, so she may not be able to go if that happens.

She has been very stressed lately with work, kid, family, life , my sexual inadequacies and not pleasing her like he does or the way he does, and so on . . . .

Do I tell her to go so she can get a break from life at home? Maybe some time alone could be good for her. But on the flip side, while texting about it, she wrote: "More worried about the other issues and the fact that you seem fine with it ". Do I then become more of the bad husband who is outsourcing the fulfillment of her sexual needs to another man and not caring?

Is fantasy best left as fantasy between them? Or is scratching that itch that is the fantasy of it just being the two of them alone, not near family, away from it all, a good thing for her to kinda check off the bucket list? Will the reality of them spending so much time together, just the two of them, possibly ruin what they have going on? (They have been together since before Covid hit and there has been plenty of drama with her declaring she was done with him multiple times, only to be talking to him a few hours later and fucking him that night)

I want my wife to be happy and I know that its something she wants to do. I just dont know . . . .

***to wrap the text convo with her about the boyfriend, she texts me this:

HER - But for a laugh - BF said his dick is painful to touch this morning LOL

ME - awwwwwwww, poor guy

should I get him a sympathy card?

wait, WTF did you do to his cock last night that it is painful this morning

its not like he was there for 3 hours and came 17 times

HER - 1) he had a foreskin so it gets more painful

2) he said he was done after like 45min and I didn't take that as a final answer

ME - so you forced him to get hard and rode him again?

HER - Something like that