I am currently in a very new relationship (less than 6 months) and I've been sort of wondering about how to add a dimension to it that I think would honestly fit really well based on both our personalities / sex drives / etc.

So yeah, as one does, we met on Hinge and it was a very sweet courtship. He didn't even try to have sex with me until the 6th date, and I honestly thought it was super refreshing based on so much of my past experience with men on dating apps.

He's physically a bit different than what I usually go for. I'm about 5'6, curvy and one boyfriend described me as "a handful in more ways than one" haha. I typically go for taller men, men who have either more meat or more muscle on them, etc. etc. But he's 5'7, less bulky (he's a runner), and wears a size 29 waist pants haha... I saw them when he was over once :)

Personality wise (this will be important in a bit), but I'd say I'm far more the extroverted type. He's not introverted per se, but he's been married before, makes good money, works in a corporate environment and owns his own condo, so he's just a bit mature even though he's only 37. While I wouldn't say he's introverted, I would say he's a huuuuge people pleaser... and a bit of a pushover. Basically a sweetheart. Case in point, but I had to be the one to send his meal back once because he refused to tell them it was over done LOL

Sexually, even though we're only about 3.5 months in, I feel like I can already tell I have a bit of a higher drive. And yes, he does have a very small penis. None of these are relationship killers and I do not body shame or hold either against him, but it is what it is.

Now onto the kink stuff.... haha. Embarrassing as this is, I'm just gonna type it all out.

I've noticed that he takes orders really well. Anytime we're playing around in bed, if I tell him to do something, he does it immediately and without question. In other words, he's exceptionally obedient. He once licked my pussy for a full 30 minutes while I watched one of my favorite shows, only because I felt like it in the moment.

I've gotten in the habit of telling him how to dress a bit. I tell him which shirts or which polos are my favorite. When to wear khakis vs jeans to match what I'm wearing. And on a whim I one time playfully berated him for wearing something too preppy to a friend's apartment warming party, to which he said nothing and looked sheepish the whole time.

In bed, when he's fucking me, I tell him to go fast or slower (even though it kind of doesn't matter to be honest). I think he's sort of aware that I've never once neared orgasm with penetrative sex with him, and he did once or twice ask about past boyfriends, which is always a sign that he has at least a little insecurity.

I feel like I have enough signs to start to playfully introduce submission and humiliation into the bedroom, but I honestly DO NOT want to scare him away, under any circumstance. I just don't know how. So I'd love to know from the community how others have approached this, what works, what doesn't. That kind of thing.

Best case scenario, I'd even love to try cuckolding, even though I know that's WAY more advanced. But I do have a friend who her and her husband have dabbled in it and say it brought them super close. So I dunno!