Have some past partial success after softly incorporating the fantasy into the bedroom, we have a name for her vibrator, she's locked me in chastity before, shes had sex, but not to completion with 2 different guys at different times although it was over 7 years ago, and will engage in whatever fantasy talk while having sex.

All of that is great but it has been harder to solidify and completely go into into the lifestyle because again even when she's pulled the trigger and bought in, neither opportunity went to the end because of liquor dick and disruption. Its been on the back burner as she's reverted to " I'm not really interested in sex in general and could go without it, but I perform because I love you" which is awesome but I need some spice to my sex as we have been together for 20 years. It doesn't have to be a full on orgy but perhaps, flirting with another guy or having a sexting relationship is even ok.

But I am having a hard time now even going into the fantasy in the bedroom because of the indifference, she doesn't need and wouldn't probably never have sex if it weren't for me. To further complicate things, I was her 1st and only given the other situations were virtual failures. Again its not the end of the world but I am very bored with the sex life right now. How can I get her back interested in a situation with another guy?