Hi everyone,

Not sure if this is the best place to put this, but it's worth a shot. My wife and I have suffered from quite a few issues but one specific one that is a major problem is that she has no interest in me sexually anymore. If you've seen my other posts you know this is a multi layer issue and that miscommunication about my kinks at the time caused a lot of them. The sexual revulsion started as a result of me mentioning the idea of crossdressing to her. This was by no means a deal breaker for me but something I wanted to discuss. She said she wasn't comfortable with that and I said ok but I wanted to talk through it anyway. Our conversation got cut short, and I should have just let it go, but because of our issues in the past I wanted to ensure we finished our conversation completely. I didn't want any room for perceived secrecy or confusion. Unfortunately she viewed my attempts to finish the conversation as me trying to force it upon her when she said she wasn't comfortable with it. Once that happened she ended up realizing she is no longer sexually attracted to me and doesn't know how to fix it. We're both aware this is an emotional/psychological issue and not a physical one, and I've since reconciled with myself what I want sexually and it aligns more closely with her interests as well. Obviously rebuilding the trust and emotional connection is the way to rebuild this divide but I'm unsure of how to do that. Does anyone have any experience with something like this or any thoughts on how to move forward? We've discussed it and we both WANT to fix this and not lose each other but she is unsure if this can be changed or not. I have some ideas for non sexual activities to try together such as taking dance lessons to rebuild intimacy without sexual block and I know couples therapy would be a must, but looking for experiences of what works/doesn't from others.

TL;DR Married couple with other issues face sexual revulsion due to idea of crossdressing and lack of respect for boundaries. Ideas or experiences on how to rebuild this connection or fix the sexual revulsion issue?