This my first time posting something like this so if the format's off I apologize, just thought I'd share this, i got a lot to talk about so it's gonna be pretty long

TW: Mentions of child murder, terrorism and rape

So I was searching through a DnD server and stumbled upon a "DM looking for Players" channel, where I ended up finding an ad for a "Dark fantasy Soulsborne" campaign which I joined hesitantly, since I'm not really a fan of Dark Fantasy but I thought it would've been interesting and joined anyway, had a chat with the DM, who we'll call "DM" for this story, and he seemed pretty normal in private messages. He invited me into the server and I asked if my friend, who we'll call "Frog", can join since he only had two players currently, the other player was a bit weird but we'll get into that later on, we'll refer to him as "Gas", he said sure and I invited Frog into the server, Frog is a great guy and basically my best friend on Discord, we join a lot of Westmarch servers and Campaigns together and our characters always end up being really close, so of course I thought having them here would be great, one thing to note about Frog is that they get VERY uncomfortable with stuff like SA or getting their PC into sexual situations. I also invited another friend but he ends up leaving immediately when he got uncomfortable with Gas talking about gassing NPCs in the campaign, in like the WW2 mustard gas kinda way. The other two players that joined after Frog and I were DM's brother who we'll call "Bigs" and the brother's co-worker, who'll call "Weirdo" (you'll see why later on) DM asked what we don't want in the campaign and we specifically brought up Sexual Assault and Pedophilia, you will see why I bring this up

I made a Satyr Druidwho was a kind hearted stoner who's very protective of animals and innocent people, but because of backstory reasons he ends up being a ferocious and murderous animal when he's mad

Frog made a tiefling fighter who didn't really have much of personality, they're sort of just, there

Biggs had some weird homebrew race that was large instead of medium or small, i think he was a fighter or barbarian? Idk all i knew is that he was a big boi, which didn't really bother me anyway

Gas made an evil artificer who loves making grenades and stuff, that's the most i know about his character

And weirdo make a half elf ranger, who was kind of a murderhobo, in fact they all were murderhobos except Frog and I

Session 1 was actually pretty fun, we fought a Dark Souls type enemy that had two phases, my druid and the artificer had a bit of a conflict going on, I discovered that I'm actually pretty good at voice acting when role playing with my PC, everything was good except for that one time the ranger started attacking some armored dude for no reason whatsoever, cause "funny" I guess. Session 2 came around and Gas starts talking about strapping bombs to children and using them against enemies, which was really off-putting and I wasn't comfortable with being in the same party as a character that would use kids for stuff like that, but then out of nowhere the DM kicked him from the server, I guess it was because he wanted to kill kids? But I don't think it was for that reason and you'll see why in a bit. Our characters get teleported off to the main world since Session 1 was mostly in the ruins they started out in (if i explain why they started out in here this story will be WAY longer) We ended up camping out and it was going well so far, my druid, Frog's tiefling and the ranger went off to adopt Frogs near the swamp, which results in my druid and the ranger almost getting eaten by a giant mama frog but that's a story for another time, Bigs however, went off to search the area to find a village nearby and comes across two NPCs dropping a bunch of dead bodies in a hole, which the DM just mentions as two "men", MEN, this well be brought up later and instead of either leaving them to their business or talking to them normally, he knocks them both out and brought them back to camp for no reason other than "they were throwing bodies in a ditch". When the rest of us came back to camp and found the tied up villagers, Ranger went off to hide in the forest, my druid had a not-so heated argument with Biggs' character about capturing these people for no apparent reason but his character insisted that the two are evil simply because he found them throwing bodies in a ditch, the older man of the two wakes up and starts cussing out the party for capturing him and the other guy for no reason, my druid tried to calm him down by asking what they were doing with the bodies but he was stubborn and kept kicking his feet and reacting, pretty understandably to the situation, off in the distance however Weirdo's character shoots an arrow into the NPCs eye, killing him, then the DM states that the other NPC goes "Pa!" meaning that he killed a young man's father in front of him, which kinda bothered me but it's whatever, now we're talking to the son and the way he's described and role-played by the DM, he seemed like a young adult, at least 18 years old, as the party were arguing with him about literally killing his father after capturing them for no reason and him refusing to calm down, I saw that Frog didn't really care at all about the situation and Weirdo and Biggs wanted to just kill him so I had my druid snap and used this opportunity to reveal the dark flaw my lovable stoner druid had, so he killed the NPC in feral anger, which tbf, i should've knocked him out instead, after that my druid turned into a bear after the ranger killed his pet frog during an argument, beat his ass to unconsciousness and the session ended there, that was that

Session 3 came around and we all found out that the younger NPC that was described as if he was just a normal young adult, was actually 12 years old, I felt sick to my stomach since if there was little to no indication that the NPC was a literal child, every description points to him being a young adult, i tried to get the DM make the NPC older since even in his anger, my druid won't hurt a literal child, he refused and basically told me to deal with the fact that my PC killed a grieving little boy who watched his dad die beforehand, it really felt like he made the NPC that age last minute to shock us, yeah this is the same DM that banned a player for wanting to use child suicide bombers. Honestly i should've left than and there but Frog had no intention of leaving so I stayed to look after them since these people were all showing a bit of red flags, mainly the DM, he was pretty aggressive and rude at times and it felt like almost every decision annoyed him to some degree, he also had this "Respect my authority" attitude, shouting like he's a teacher trying to calm down a group of children, and when Frog would ask questions that, weren't the smartest, he would answer them in a somewhat rude but really aggressive way that just really got under my skin.

But it gets worse....

After a couple of sessions in, I was pretty bored of the campaign, I was the only one roleplaying, Biggs and Weirdo won't really engage in any and Frog, was Frog, which wasn't a bad thing though, Frog's the best. During the most recent session after the last one, where we joined a faction of monster hunters, we were all tasked with sneaking into a fort and finding some secret files in some secret room, during this time I was pretty distracted texting a player in my own homebrew campaign about something important, but i got caught up easily on what was happening, during this whole session Frog and DM got into a silly argument about the pronunciation of a word and Biggs shouted at DM started threatening to kick him in the jaw if he doesn't drop it and continue with the session (I get their brothers and that's a normal thing between them but goddamn). So apparently the fort is controlled by a group of gnolls so we'd have some difficulty finding these files, after another a heated argument between DM and Biggs about how grappling hooks work, we managed to use one to sneak into the top floor where the bedrooms of the gnolls are, Weirdo wanted my druid to wildshape so he can use him to torture one of the gnolls by putting the wildshaped rat on his stomach and covering it with a bucket (forgot the name of this torture method sorry) I decided not to consent to that, Biggs and Weirdo and kill a few gnolls in their sleep and I once again get distracted. While I'm distracted helping a player come up with his character concept, i faintly hear the DM say "-taking advantage of her" Biggs and Weirdo are like "yooo" and Frog sounded super uncomfortable, going "umm", I then asked what was happening since I got distracted again, and the DM straight up tells me that one of the Gnolls is currently in the act of raping a woman, immediately I got upset and told him that we talked about this and that we didn't want mentions of rape or any sexual assault, to which he argued back saying that Frog and I said we "were cool with stuff like that" even though we specifically said we DIDN'T want that in the game, suggesting that he most likely remembered the conversation wrong, cause I would never agree to something that would make Frog and I uncomfortable, especially Frog. As we're arguing about this Frog goes on mute to take a quick break since mentions of that stuff heavily triggers them, and DM soon mutes as well, during this time Frog came back and I went to find the message where we agreed to allow that stuff, but instead I found an old message from DM literally agreeing to NOT add mentions of that stuff in, "No illegal stuff involving sex" was literally what he sent as an agreement, when I read it out, Weirdo straight up said that "Rape isn't illegal" which obviously triggers Frog once again, and I was too mentally drained to even argue with anymore, then DM, without any further discussions or apologies, straight up banned both Frog and I off the server, therefore kicking us out the campaign and honestly I'm glad he did, Frog and I were gonna leave the campaign anyway and he basically did us a favor by kicking us like that, to make my night better I just hopped on a voice chat with my main group and telling them about it and just chatting made me appreciate them a lot more. That's about it, sorry if it's too long i just thought I'd share this with you all

Tl;dr: Terrible DM bans a player out of nowhere, refuses to change the age of a 12 year old NPC my PC killed after hinting at the fact they were a grown adult and narrates a gnoll sexually assaulting a female NPC even after we specifically said that stuff was a no no for me and my friend, kicked us both for having a problem with it anyway