So…I’ve been divorced for a few years and I assumed I’d be dating someone close to my own age (38) however, by FAR the men who are most interested and pursue me with the most effort are 8-12 years younger than me. I have never dated anyone younger than me until I divorced. At first, I would not consider dating anyone with this much of a gap, I felt really uncomfortable and I couldn’t take them seriously. I felt like it was just for a fantasy or fetish. I’m not a vain woman but I am a!fairly attractive woman I’d say and I am someone who doesn’t “look my age” if you will. backstory I was married at 21 and married for 13 years, 3 children, it was a new world when I came back out-so here is where I’m at now… I’ve met someone who I am starting to really like. We met and had an amazing mental and physical connection. It is very hard for me to feel that with anyone of any age. He is 26. When we met and went out we had kind of a whirlwind experience and basically decided to just have fun and enjoy each other. He and I were both not looking for anything serious at that time. He told me he had dated women older than me but also younger. For him I think what was a deal breaker in general is children, both already having older ones closer to his age and my ability to not have any more. So it got me thinking-

My question is, how are you all handling the topic of children when it comes to getting serious with a woman in similar situations?

I feel like if I am going to continue dating younger men this will inevitably continue to come up. I will admit it hurts to feel like you are only as good as your ability to reproduce. I unfortunately had an emergency TLH after my last child and cannot have biological children without the help of in vitro and surrogacy. It’s not impossible but it’s expensive and difficult.

I’d love to hear from anyone on this. Thank you for listening.