I (F47) am a married, polyamorous mother of 2 (1 grown, 1 not). I recently discovered my attraction to younger men.
It was happenstance that ignited that fire. I invited a friend (M27) to an adult event. He expressed interest and desire, and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t attracted. We had a heavy make out session, but not more than that. He is in a relationship that was new to the idea of poly/kink and had preset boundaries (pants stayed on).

Fast forward a few months. I started a new job and have, inadvertently, become attracted to my 21 y/o (going on 35) coworker. We work closely together, and quite well. It has been commented that we make a good team ( a phrase I’ve only heard in reference to my husband and I). Other than the fact that I KNOW he is 21, I don’t see him that way. He is extremely intelligent, slightly anti-social, and has a quirky sense of humor. While I do find him physically attractive, I find that it's more than that. I care for him as a person, friend, and a coworker. Being around him just makes me feel good, his mind and brain fascinate me, his smile gives me butterflies, his eyes melt me, and OMG I haven’t LOL’d so much in a LONG time. We are always professional at work, aside from joking around and the occasional ‘sesh’ talk. We have been out a couple of times (w/ coworkers/friends and w/out). Not going to lie, my fav times have been when it is just us.
All that aside, I am struggling with the fact that I am increasingly attracted to younger men. I mean, my husband is just a big kid himself, so I guess I’m not THAT far off. Partially, I think it is also because I do NOT look, feel, or act, my age and I’m a tad neurodivergent. Being poly, we have a very open marriage which has allowed me to explore. Having a kid still living in the house creates some challenging dynamics. I guess my crisis has stemmed from some posts I recently read stating that interest in someone that young, AND with such an age gap (26 yrs), is almost predatory. I don’t feel that I’m not the creepy old lady…

I was not looking for a connection (at work at least), but just noticed it happening. Even if we do not take anything to the next level (due to work or unmatched feelings), I am struggling with this new ‘feeling’ of connection with younger men. I suppose, I am seeking some level of validation that I am indeed NOT the creepy old lady preying on young men.

I truly need a connection, that is why I am not very active at being ‘poly’. It can be difficult for me to find a connection deep enough to carve time into my busy adulting.

Throwing myself to the sharks… please be kind and chew thoroughly for best digestion. :)

(Footnote: I have discussed this with my therapist. Their main concern was if it affected my work.)