It would appear that I like men who are toxic, controlling and narcissistic con-artists! Who knew?! I’ve always liked men who exert their masculinity. I have a very strong personality (I’m from Baltimore originally and am retired military), I’ve been described as fierce, cold hearted and savage. So I’m looking for a man who can handle my personality and help the soft feminine side come out. I recently started chatting with a guy who lives local to me, said he was a lawyer and that after reading my profile and posts felt we had a lot in common. He was literally the ONLY person who messaged me who gave me real information about him that matched what I had posted. I liked that he didn’t hit me with same lack luster message everyone was sending. You know the ones ladies: “Hey, saw your post”, “Hey, still looking?” Or my personal favorite: “Hey” 🙄 But this guy checked all my boxes! I should have known then to run but my silly ass fell for the okie doke. He said all of the right things. Had me walking around grinning like an idiot for no reason. I had it bad. Then I messed around and tried to compliment him for being upfront about his intentions. I told him I planned to contact my FWB and end our beneficial relationship so there would be no issues down the line. When I tell you he lost it, it was head spinningly astounding. I was doing everything I could to explain my self. He said he didn’t think we were a good fit, that I was giving someone else priority over him. After more than 24 hours of explaining myself and riding a death defying emotional roller coaster I said I’m done. Then he forgave my indiscretion with prejudice. But it left me feeling less than enthusiastic about the idea of being with him. I tried. But, the red flags I was probably too enamored with the idea of a possible romance to see early on were just slapping me in the face! So we were supposed to meet today, but he stopped responding to my messages sometime last night. We had night exchanged pics yet and I told him I wanted to do so before we met. I haven’t heard from him since. I’m disappointed but also relieved. But I can also say I’m not heartbroken. After our disagreement, something changed. Clarity set in. Ladies (and gentlemen) some of us are so ready to be in a relationship that when that “Too good to be true” person comes along we bend over backwards. Don’t ignore your inner alarm bells and please stay true to yourself. Chatting for a couple of weeks on this app save is a safety precaution that I have always followed and it served me well (even though I really wanted to throw caution to the wind after the first week). I hope my story helps someone and if not, I hope you at least got a chuckle. Looking back, I certainly did! 😆 *About the flair-it was the only one presented as an option. I don’t know if I would have chosen it if given other choices but it kind of fits the circumstances. 🤨