I (Asian 25M) am totally new to a community like this as I would usually just speak to women at a bar or club, but I have always found older women much more attractive. I’ll also say I’m not past the phase of the casual one night stands or a few fwb’s. I have trouble thinking about settling down with someone so far but is something I am working on to change my mindset.

To the cougars out there, are most of you looking for flings or for the long game? When I had a tinder, I seem to have trouble finding cougars who wanted to meet for the night. What do you expect out of a new cub? Is it normal to just chat for a week or two before meeting up?

Even now when I’m trying to take things more seriously, it’s hard to resist when someone calls up. What do cougars do to counterbalance immaturity of cubs?

I know some are dumb questions. Just thought I’d speak my heart out here.