I’m a man in my early 30’s, mostly chatting on dating apps with women who are in their late 30’s or early 40’s, many of which have children. I don’t have much experience dating cougars or single mothers, but my intention is not to pursue anything serious currently.

I am wondering if I should proactively mention my intentions, or is it something implied given our age gap. If they’re the ones asking, I’m of course honest about my intentions, and I don’t want to mislead anyone. I’d rather forgo sex than have them being disappointed.

I’m also worried that if I mentioned it so explicitly that I’m not looking for a relationship and only for something casual, it might be a turn off for them.

Should I bring it up, or wait for them to bring it up? (And if they don’t, should I assume they’re ok with something not serious?)

If I should bring it up, how to do it without it being a turn off?