I used to be a larger woman and felt sexy because my (now ex) partner loved me like that and was insanely attracted to me. I started to have health issues related to my weight and got bariatric surgery last summer. I also ended my relationship at the end of summer but it was not related to my weight loss at all.

I have lost 97 lbs and am 5'6" and a size "small" now. I am single and wanting to find a new life partner. My health issues are gone and I have a lot more energy BUT I am very insecure about my body now. I have some loose skin on my stomach and upper thighs that I can live with. That said, my butt is COMPLETELY gone and is not only flat but has folds of loose skin too. It seriously looks like the back of an elephant or a 99-year olds butt. In clothes and from the neck up, I look really good....10-15 years younger than my actual age.

I date younger men (20's-30's) exclusively and I am just terrified to get naked with any of them because of my butt looking so awful. I want to have body surgery and can afford it....I just can't manage it while living alone due to taking care of pets and household.

My question is for the younger men. Would u want a woman to tell u these things before u get naked so u will know what to expect?