Hello everyone, I am new to pretty much all of this. What brought me here in the first place was a sudden relationship with an older woman (35) with kids. For context, I’m a 22 year old male(at the time 21). We worked together and had great chemistry.

One night things escalated and we had sex. We had a hidden ongoing relationship for the better part of a year. We enjoyed each others intimacy and emotional support. I loved being with someone who cared. It eventually got too complicated because of how close our social circles are.

You might be wondering what’s the big deal? Why hide it? So what if shes more than 10 years older than you and has kids? The big deal is that we both live in a very religious community. This relationship is frowned upon and sex out of wedlock is strictly forbidden. If people found out about, my life would essentially be over. Not really, but it would be absolutely devastating.

That leads me to my question. I really enjoyed spending time with an older mature woman, I always considered myself an old soul (taste in music, movies, food) and I have so much to offer. I would want to be in this relationship, but it would have to treated with the utmost discretion.

Would cougars ever want to be in this type of relationship or am I stuck?

Thanks for listening,

-Newbie