So, I kind got into this by accident a few years ago when I had an experience by mistake but we both just sort of went for it and loved it!

After that, like a lot of people I used porn as a way to discover more about what I liked and disliked, and exactly what I’m into and why.

But what I have felt more recently, is that porn is giving me unrealistic expectations, as I’m sure it does for many. We see people engaging in really very extreme acts, and we think that these are achievable. Which is fine: it really IS asking a lot of someone to engage in this type of stuff, even if your interest is only ‘mild’. So we have to accept that a large majority of people are not going to immediately jump on you and play with your/their poo.

…and many men moan here about things here as if they’re expecting that it should be easy.

So, do we need to think more carefully about how we engage with porn? I love watching SO much, but often it just reinforces the distance I am from enjoying with someone else.