My buddy and I workout at the gym but when we change he always respectful to redirect his eyes when I drop my towel or I "air dry" as I search through my gym bag for my underwear. Even though we have seen each other naked he has this concept that "man should look at each other naked because that is gay"

Long story short of his background of my buddy homophobic ideology, he knows I'm gay and there was a while he was uncomfortable with it. Drunken nights, he would shared that in high school he was bullied because a lot of his peers thought he is/was gay (even his family think he is).

Today, we ran into ONE of his former high school bully and that bully is the same guy who talk your f*cking ear off in the sauna.

Because of his trauma of high school years has cause him to have VERY low self-esteem but today I was surprised he didn't wear a shirt in the hot tub. He normally wear a full "suit" black shirt and swim trunk.

When we encounter the bully (who I didn't know was his bully in high school) he first asked him..do you have a gf yet?

My buddy said no

former bully: is he your man (as he looked at me)?

My buddy said no

Bully: do you have kids?

My buddy said no

Bully: Are you married?

My buddy said no

Bully: Are you gay?

I finally said : NO he isn't gay out **out of annoyance**

Bully: well, you never know nowadays

My buddy left the sauna and I follow suit

After that interaction, I fully understand why he get annoyed with me when I'm stark naked in the locker room. It's not ME! Its my buddy trauma having the fear of THINKING that he could be gay.