I'm very conscious about fitting in, doing the right thing in any situation, looking like I belong. Bad decision considering that mental hang-up: as a hipster white guy I went to NY Spa and Sauna recently. I couldn't tell if guys of various ages and ethnicities were taking glances at me because I wasn't a regular, or I was doing something different from the way things are "done", or if they were checking me out. I was literally just sitting in the hot tubs, nothing crazy: this isn't shyness around guys looking at my junk. And it's known to not be a cruisy spot so idk how to read it.

I didn't want to look like I was cruising, so I just kind of ignored them. Not many words were spoken the entire 4 hours I was there, besides between the locker room attendants. Ironically if it was a more cruisy place it would have been more clear what was going on. I could have asked "Am I doing something wrong, because I feel like people are looking at me". But it was so damn quiet there.

If there's a "right way" or expected process to enjoy a kspa, please drop that in the comments. Googling was just telling me "hang in the hot pool, cold pool, wet sauna, dry sauna, whatever you want" so I don't think I did anything weird.