I 28 F have a "friend" 28F Who is mentally draining. Sorry for The bad formatting I'm on mobile and I don't really post on Reddit like that. Let's call the friend VEE. Vee calls me and asked for advice and proceeds to get upset at the advice. Here's an example of something that happened recently. She wanted me to help her get divorce paperwork. OK, cool her husband's (35) a POS so why not? The only problem is this Ditzy witch Thinks that divorce is sweet and easy. I tried to tell her you're divorcing, a man after FIVE years of marriage been together for 13 (you do the math) And with two kids it's gonna be a walk in the park? And on top of all of that, we are in Florida!!! When is Florida ever made anything easy Besides traffic and Sweating out edges. I came back to visit some family and I tried to catch up with her and in the two hours of dealing with her I would rather go through Boot Camp again And get the gas chamber twice. It's not even funny and I think the biggest reason why I've checked out is because I give her common sense advice. And she complains. Before I give the advice, I always ask her. Do you want to vent or do you want logic? I'm not married. I am a single woman, but even I have some common sense in regards to marriage and divorce like one should have an exit plan. And she gets upset and says I'm doing too much this man has threatened to put his hands on you and has no problem putting his hands on your son who , granted has silver tooth energy but still doesn't deserve To be milly rocked by a dread head bad built big back Captain Gantu body (lilo and stitch reference ) Frollo havin soul for a father. In tired I want to be there for her but low-key I just wanna check out. I probably did a little too much describing the husband, but the way he treats her and those kids and others just makes me sick. I had to file two CPS reports because of the way he did his son. I did it anonymously, of course, but I don't like bullies. Anyways, I want to be a good friend and stick it out for her because I know the people she surrounds herself with hyped her up when she has drama and they entertain it while I'm the only one who will literally give her real life advice But at the same time I wanna cut off, but I don't want to see her drown and I feel like if I cut her off something bad will happen. Just to add in regards to the divorce, I told her if she needed to she can come her and the kids and live with me because her husband does not have my address. She can get a fresh start in a new city And I'm willing to pay for them to move down here if it means she's safe

UPDATE: so she called me a few hours ago, asking for the links to more paperwork (We live in Florida so you can find any type of divorce paperwork you need online) And for advice, I caved and I listened to her problem now according to her, I'm the AH because I was right. She seeing a new partner, and I explained to her that she has no leg to stand on being upset with the new person for having other females text him when he was SINGLE less than a week ago my exact words to her were you cannot hold someone to a standard you're refusing holding your own husband too And yourself too PLUS you're STILL wearing the wedding ring..... granted that probably was an AH thing to say, but at this point, I low-key just let her have it. I explained to her how like in the past when I gave her advice she didn't take it until everything hit the fan and exploded. None of this was unsolicited she asked for my unfiltered opinion "lay it on me" was what she said. But I also explained to her that from now on, I'm gonna back off I cannot sit back and be her copilot to an obvious plane crash. But before I hung up, I did tell her when a woman's fed up. She doesn't speak about what she's going to do. She gets quiet and she sets things in motion so she really needs to figure out what she wants. I told her I will no longer give her advice, but I will always be there to vent and if she needs a safe place, she has my phone and she knows. I'm willing to do whatever to make sure the kids are safe.