I (24F) recently had my kia stolen for the second time in 6 months. The first time it happened, my whole family, including my sister, we'll call her "A" (32F) kept telling me to:

1. "Just get a new car" - I did not make enough money to just purchase a new car or to put a new down payment on a new car. I was already working about 70hrs/week between a full-time and part-time job. NO ONE who was telling me to get a new car, including A, was willing to help finance it. Just a shit ton of useless advice, which was aggravating. SIDENOTE: A makes about 2x more than what i make, and is always spending hundreds or thousands on designer purses, shoes, elaborate vacations, etc. Which is also why the comment seemed so inventive, cause she knows i don't make anything near what she makes.

   1. "Don't let it get you down/be positive/etc" - my problem with this, again, is that it's basically useless advice. The first time this happened, i ended up spending $800 in a month (getting ubers, renting uhauls) to be able to get to work, get groceries, etc (my city doesn't have reliable public transportation). And i was ultimately fired from my fulltime job bc i didn't have reliable transportation which led to me being late or calling out.

When this originally happened, i expressed to A why those kinds of statements rubbed me the wrong way.

So fast forward to a couple weeks ago, my car was stolen again and A sent me a message that stated, and i quote, "😭😭 You ain't a GOAT until you lose it all, watch everything fall apart.... Have the closest person turn on you and still Stand up, hold your head high, grind, take chances & Get it all back!! 🦾🦾💯💯🙏🏽"

I immediately blocked her and haven't spoken to her since. Last night, i ended up unblocking her but didn't say anything. At 3am she sent a TikTok video of a woman who had her kia stolen to the family group chat and they were all laughing about it. Honestly this made me feel vindicated in having blocked her as it felt like another slap in the face.

P.S. if you're wondering about my car situation as of right now: i was able to get a new car after finding someone to help me cosign. I also have a new Full-time job where I'm making more money than the last one, so this wasn't as major of a setback as it was last time.

EDITS Since there was confusion in the comments 1. i don't think my sister is TA for not loaning me money, or co signing. I was not expecting a handout. I mentioned the difference in incomes to show why i felt the comment was thoughtless and insensitive. 2. yes i had and have insurance, my insurance only covers a rental for 30 days. The first time my car was stolen: I got the rental immediately when i saw my car was gone. It took a week for my car to be found and about 2 months to get fixed. Since kias are all getting stolen/broken into, the parts needed to fix my car were on back order. So after the first 30 days i just figured things out the best i could. Now: waiting to see what insurance payout will look like because it's highly plausible it will be less than what the car loan was for, leaving me to pay current car note as well as previous loan balance.