1. What should I know if I’m a single guy planning to attend Colette?

If you’re a single guy thinking about coming to Colette, there are some important things to keep in mind. First, you’ll be paying a significantly higher admission fee compared to couples or single women. This is by design—to help balance the male-to-female ratio and ensure that the environment stays comfortable for everyone. Solo men are only allowed in on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday nights; Saturdays are reserved for couples and throuples.

Being a single guy at Colette can be tricky. Don’t think of it as a place where you just pick someone out of a lineup. It’s not a brothel. You’ll need to be respectful, courteous, and charming. Most importantly, you must understand that “no” means “no” every time. You’re also in an awkward position of needing to show some initiative by approaching others. If you wait around hoping someone will come to you, you’ll likely end up disappointed.

My advice? Approach with a genuine interest in conversation and connection. Many people are open to including a solo guy in their playtime, but it’s about fitting the right vibe. Expect to face rejection sometimes and move on gracefully. Don’t take it personally—remember, everyone is there for their own experience.

Dont Overstep: The “lizard brain” can take over in sexually charged environments, but it’s crucial to keep your behavior in check. Avoid being overly aggressive or desperate—standing around like a “slobbering dog” is a fast way to ruin the vibe for yourself and others. •Understand Your Role: If you’re invited to join a couple, be clear about their boundaries and your role in the interaction. Communication is key, and consent should always be explicit. •Be Self-Aware: Be aware that single men can alter the dynamic of the room. On quieter nights, even one or two single men can feel overwhelming, while on busier nights, their presence blends more naturally. Be mindful of how you fit into the atmosphere and adjust accordingly.

1. How should we interact with a single guy if we’re a couple or solo person?

If you’re a couple or a solo person thinking about interacting with a single guy, the first thing is to be clear about what you want. Many couples enjoy the dynamic of adding a solo male into their playtime, but just as many are put off by an overly forward or desperate approach. It’s okay to chat and feel things out before making any decisions.

If a single guy approaches and you’re not interested, a direct “NO” usually works. If he lingers or doesn’t back off, be more assertive. Colette generally supports a respectful atmosphere, and most men will understand and move on. If you’re interested, it’s always good to establish what role he might play early on—whether he’s just there to watch, interact a bit, or more.

Think of it like any random encounter: there’s an 80% chance you’ll meet someone selfish or entitled, but there’s also a 20% chance you’ll meet someone genuinely giving and respectful. Approach interactions with this in mind, and frame them correctly in your head as a transaction of sorts, where both sides need to be comfortable and willing.

1. What are the different types of single guys who come to Colette, and how do they behave?

Single guys at Colette come in all types, and their behavior can vary widely. Generally, you can break them down into a few categories:

•The Respectful Gentleman: These guys get it. They approach carefully, ask for consent, and know how to take “no” for an answer without making anyone feel uncomfortable. They’re genuinely interested in connecting, either through conversation or possibly more, and they’re aware of the boundaries and atmosphere of the club. You’ll find some of them watching and waiting for the right vibe rather than jumping into every opportunity.

•The Creepers or “Slobbering Dogs”: You’ll know them when you see them. These guys are the ones who hover around the edges, staring a bit too long, maybe rubbing themselves in their pockets, waiting for any opening to approach. They’re like dogs at the edge of the table waiting for a scrap to fall. While there is a line they’re not supposed to cross, some do, especially if they’re feeling the lizard brain take over in a sexually charged environment. In these cases, a direct “NO” or even involving club staff can help.

•The “Fuckboys” or Opportunists: These are the confident, good-looking guys who are there to play the odds. They’re often bouncing from group to group, looking for the quickest and easiest route to a hookup. They can be charming and straightforward, but they’re not usually looking for anything beyond a quick fling. They’re generally less creepy than the “slobbering dogs,” but their focus is pretty narrow.

•Demographic Breakdown: Based on who tends to attend, the single guys you’ll see are often younger—30s and 40s—with a few in their 50s. As for racial demographics, single guys tend to be more diverse. There’s a noticeable presence of Asian (Indian/Pakistani), Latino, and Black men. Fewer white men tend to play solo. Anecdotally, some feel that Asian guys might be shyer and more likely to watch while playing with themselves, Latinos might take a chance at a bedside connection, and white guys are more likely to engage in conversation with clothes still on. Black men often hang around the action zones, ready for those looking for that “BBC” experience without a lot of small talk.

Remember, these are just observations, and people vary widely. It’s important to read the room and judge each person individually.

1. How Should Single Men Post for a Date at Colette? If you’re a single man looking to connect before going to Colette, offering to pay for the night is nice, but it’s not what’s going to make you stand out. Here’s how to create a compelling post: •Describe What You Bring: Every guy has a dick—that’s not what sets you apart. What makes you special? Describe your personality, gender identity, and your level of attraction to men, women, and trans partners. Be specific about what you want and what you’re great at. Whether it’s your oral skills, how you use your body, or your ability to make someone comfortable, make it clear what you’re bringing to the table. •Be Explicit About Boundaries: What’s off the table? For example, are you willing to give anal but not receive it? Are you open to oral with men, but not penetration? Be clear on these things, and don’t forget to include whether you’re okay with being seen publicly doing so. This helps set expectations right from the start. •Don’t Say “I’m Up for Anything”: The worst thing you can say is that you’re open to everything. Be bold, be specific. Saying what you’re looking for will get the attention of the right people. Include details about your past experience with women, men, or couples, and let them know what your past partners say you’re particularly good at. •Paint a Picture of Your Ideal Night: Are you hoping for a drink before the club, or would you rather meet there? Are you a dancer or more of a social butterfly in the lounge? Are you looking to pick up another single woman and expand the group? Be clear about your vibe for the night—there’s someone who’s into exactly what you’re offering. •Tailor the Offer for Them: Think about the couple or woman you want to attract. What are their fears and desires? Show them how you can help them achieve their goals while being upfront about yours. If you communicate clearly about your expectations and abilities, you’ll avoid awkward surprises. •Be Descriptive About Yourself: Your age, ethnicity, height, body type, grooming habits—everything matters. Be specific: are you smooth or hairy? Reserved or outspoken? Funny or deeply intellectual? Don’t forget to describe your disposition—are you quick to make a move or do you prefer to wait for cues? This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being authentic. •Specificity Wins Attention: State your fantasies and desires plainly, and remember that this is just a starting point for discussion. A couple might only resonate with part of your post but be willing to negotiate once you connect. Be genuine, no false advertising.