I’m 40m, and m y wife is 35f. Our sexual relationship is fun and at least somewhat kinky. For years, we have thought it would be fun to have a safe environment where we can explore the exhibitionist side of our lizard brains in a safe/controlled environment. We recently learned of Colette and agree that while it could be exactly what we are looking for, it could also be something to avoid. While we are sexually adventurous, we are not swingers. While we recognize that on a primal level, swinging could be quite fun, we both realize our jealous side would kick in, which would surely cause problems that outweigh the fantastical benefits. This is where we have the dilemma.

All we know of the place is it is officially a swingers bar, though what we have read in a couple of places is that it is more or less occupied by voyeurs and exhibitionists, and Saturdays will make things easier, since single men are not allowed. Is that accurate? And regarding the “sheer curtain” policy, do people respect the limits placed by the curtains?

Also, I know there is sexy-fun-time upstairs, but downstairs remains a mystery. Are people having sex in the club area? Is nudity allowed and/or encouraged down there? Are non-swingers welcome? And if so, is there an etiquette to let them know we are not interested in anything other than casual conversation? We wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time, but we also don’t want to be presumptuous.

Any info would be very helpful. Thanks!