I recently began chatting with someone, and met them for the first time last weekend. I’m a fairly quirky guy, so finding someone who is truly compatible is not a dime-a-dozen experience for me, to say the least. Well, the person in question is intelligent, thoughtful, healing/mindfulness oriented, beautiful, successful, grounded and kind. This is all wonderful news so far, right?

Well... my mind has been racing with every possible outcome, even feeling sadness and unworthiness as I convince myself that at any moment she will ghost me, even though she has told me explicitly that she really likes me so far. Just being in the moment, living for myself, and slowing down to be the person she met and is interested in seems challenging with all this potential energy running through my mind.

I need to slow down, enjoy the process and drop my growing attachment to what I currently consider the desired outcome (even though we have only met in person ONCE!). Ugh. I thought I was growing so much in my dating intelligence and healthier attachments, but then someone ruffles my feathers (in a good way) and I’m right back to old patterns.