So I always knew I was codependent and I knew it had gotten horrifically worse in recent years and I put it on my list of things to deal with. I recently had a horrific rapid cycling episode and a bunch of triggers and that's been my focus. I'm in therapy, taking meds, putting in the work. I've been busy. I'm still busy. But someone told me I was extremely codependent and gave me a link for coda and I looked at the website. I looked at the signs of codependency. It fit like a glove and it made me sound like a terrible person and made me realize how awful I've been and what I've put my family through. It's something I need to take care of. I can't put it on the back burner. But I also looked into the coda program and that is not for me. I don't believe in the 12 steps, I know recent studies show they don't work, I've had history with these programs and I don't want anything to do with them. What are my other options?