I’m not sure how to navigate this anymore. I’m very pregnant, very committed and in love with my husband. We recently got married and he moved countries to be with me. I know this contributed a lot likely to his innate insecurities, along with some worries he carries around from early in our relationship that caused him to not trust me (prior to us being in a committed relationship). But for god sake, I’m 8 months pregnant. My only concern or worry is nesting, remaining sane, and building a healthy relationship with my partner and home for my baby. I’ve done nothing to elicit jealousy or skepticism, but his spiraling about it always catches me off guard and comes out of nowhere. We have been doing so well and something triggered him today (as if usually does) and he got home and launched into the fact that “you’re not making me feel safe” and tried asking questions about the past and questioning my integrity. Meanwhile, I’m the picture of commitment and doting wife. There’s literally nothing I can do to convince him how absolutely crazy I am in love and how I’d NEVER jeopardize that. His brain tells him he can’t trust me (or anyone).

He told me today that if I can’t make him feel safe he’s afraid he’s going to go against his own integrity and seek safety out elsewhere with someone else. WHAT? why on earth would you tell your 8 month pregnant wife that??!!!!

Will this ever get better? I’m so hurt but so wanting this to work that I feel like I’m eager to push this under the rug. It’s sad.