I (36F) met someone (41M) on a dating app a month ago and for whatever reason I was hooked on whatever he had to say. However, this caused me lots of anxiety and I felt like a junkie waiting for his messages.

We texted back and forth a lot at first to get to know each other and I felt like I was on a high. I told him I only sleep with one person at a time so after our first date he told me he only wanted to focus on me. On our second date we spent all day together and slept together. He did tell me he was going to be super busy the next upcoming weeks with work and family and his messaging dropped significantly. And like a junkie, I felt like I was on withdrawal.

We talked about it and I found out that once he assessed we may be a good match he didn't feel the need to text back and forth so much anymore, especially since he was super busy. Before I knew that, I thought he lost interest because we had sex. I also learned that he isn't the type to miss people, and that he'll "see them when he sees them". Whereas I do tend to miss and think of people and wanted more consistent check-in texts from him but he doesn't seem like the type to do that.

We both thought it would be best to part ways because I wasn't happy with his level of communication and he was on a road trip at the time and said he wouldn't be able to text me as much as I wanted.

I really wish I wasn't addicted to his messages like a junkie. He also seems like a lot healthier than me mentally. I'm definitely co-dependent and have childhood trauma so I think it would be best for me to focus on healing those right now but I feel pretty weak right now so just posting this for some moral support. Thanks.

Edit to add this has never happened to me before btw. Even when I was younger I would get excited when guys I liked messaged me back but it never felt like a "drug".