So basically this weekend my friend and i planned to go to this event 1h30 away from our city. We planned it a month in advance and were both so excited!!! She knows though I am chronically ill, and knows that things can change last minute. I've told her MANY times to not rely on me because unfortunately things get really unpredictable. She's seen me in awful flares. It's a weekend long event so we could go either day of the weekend. The friday night, (i have uncontrolled crohns) i had diarrheas until 5 am into the saturday morning (we were supposed to leave at 10am and i was the driver) qnd my other illnesses were also acting up, i was super weak, dehydrated, dizzy, nauseas, had intense joint pain, back pain, had horrible cramps etc after 15 diarrheas. All so sudden in intensity. So at around 2am i messaged her i feel horrible but i doubt i will make it and explained the situation and told her if she wanted to find another way to go without me she should because i am in a huge flare. She basically responded she hopes i'll feel better soon BECAUSE she was looking forward to the event and she was very disappointed. No regards to my illness & symptoms at ALL. i even apologized and said if i feel better sunday we could go then but no promises because i have no idea how i'll feel. i asked if it was wheelchair accessible bcause if i end up being able to go on sunday i would need aids, she just responded "ok so we're going?"....then during the day of saturday, my partner got a call that her fav uncle died. i knew immidietaly it wouldn't work sunday, i will take care of my partner i was still in immense pain all day and knew a total 3h drive day out in the sun, and forcing my body would send me in an even worse flare it's a sanvac toilet situation so with crohns flare it's not great so i messaged her the bad news and apologized again. she left me on read. i feel so sad. i can't control these things and she knows. she didnt even say ANYTHING after my last message. i'm always the first person to be there for her and listen to her, and comfort her and give her car lifts when she needs them, and i get treated like that?!? i feel discouraged and like i dont matter