So, my friend asked me what my preferences were for visits, as she was nearby the other day and wondered if in the future I was ok with her popping by if she was in the area or if I preferred things to be scheduled. I think it was great she asked.

I told her that I preferred at least a few hours of notice just to make sure I had time to prepare for the visit— change out of my sweatpants, maybe do something with my hair, make sure my place was picked up, etc.

I also told her that there would be times I would decline if I was having a low energy day, that it was nothing personal but that I didn’t want people to see me like that. She responded that she accepted me in whatever form I was in— sweatpants, low energy, all of it. That’s really sweet and I do think she is being genuine. But it also felt a little dismissive maybe? Like, when I’m so fatigued my speech is slurred and I can’t find words the last thing I want to worry about is entertaining a guest. I am a very social person, but it takes energy that I don’t have, you know? I am not going to have it in me to look presentable or make sure the dishes are done and laundry is put away. Those days I just need to rest.

Anywho, I think it was sweet of her to ask and to try to reassure me but it also felt like she didn’t understand. I dunno, thoughts?