I have posted this concept before in other subreddits. Most of you know I live in Nevada. And because Vegas is horrible for the lifestyle (in terms of outright scams), I moderate a subreddit just on the topic of going to lifestyle events (and other sexy things) in Las Vegas. r/VegasLifestyleParties/

The common question I get every few days is typically, "my spouse is interested in putting a toe in the water but won't commit". A long time ago, I discovered the value of the Naughty-cation. It has established a very impressive track-record for success.

So first the "why" and then the "what".

Why this works. You are away from home. You are allowed to wear your anonymity like soft warm blanket. No one knows you and all you have to live up to is your own expectations. No work, no kids, no housework, just time to relax and enjoy life... with a twist. One observation I have made over the years being a Christian, a Party organizer, a marketing and communication expert, is that people rarely want to admit their fears when it comes to anything related to sex. It's why most of your will say things that start off with "I think he/she..." and it is often part of an emotional bottleneck that can cause people to go down a path of avoiding sex.

A Naughty-cation is the ice-breaking experience that can turn this tide for you. Or at least provide you with the final answer as to whether or not this is right for both of you. There are three types of Naughty-cations I recommend.

1) The Couples Cruises (Swingers Cruises) - these can be an amazing experience. Expensive.
2) Hotel Takeovers - research carefully as there are more "duds" that great ones.
3) The Vegas Naughty-cation - I have also done these in Houston, New Orleans, and Florida.

For this go-round, I am going to focus on a Vegas Naughty-cation - as this is often the cheapest option for a naughty getaway weekend and it is a pretty sex place.

From the moment you get on the plane to Vegas, it becomes all about sex. So this has to be agreed upon by both (or all) of you before you book the trip. I always recommend that you NOT stay at a Hotel Casino Resort. This may sound odd to most, but there is a method to the madness. I suggest one of the MANY awesome hotels that are not casinos, the best options being on the far south end of the Las Vegas Strip. If you do decide to stay at a Casino, get off the beaten drudge of the strip. There are some amazing off-strip properties; the Silverton Casino Resort (it has a Bass Pro Shop, that gets my husband horny), Green Valley Ranch Resorts Casino (my personal favorite), and the M which is the official hotel of the Raiders. On the strip, I like Mandalay Bay, but that is because I love the topless pool there, which is the best in Vegas.

You fly in Thursday morning, the earlier the better. You fly home Sunday Evening, after dark, a soft cool-down from a weekend of debauchery. Each day and night builds sexually.

Pack as little as possible (typically the weather is very nice April-October in Vegas). Light summer clothes, swimming attire (which you may abandon later), comfortable walking shoes, flip flops, sunglasses, sunscreen, phone charger, the bare minimums. Fit it into one suitcase or duffle bag. If you have more than that, you broke the concept.

In your budget, plan on buying clothes while you are there (mostly for her).

Plan your trip carefully and sexually, in Part Two I will give you an example. Each of you take turns picking what you want to see, do, experience, and most importantly, decide if you want to attend a lifestyle party and if so, which one.

The example... see part two!