Thank you!

It has always made much more sense to me.

I would typically not worry about labels in this situation. I have so many labels already. Working mom, college mom, female business owner, producer, consultant, dozens of labels. But to answer your question, in this "context".

I am a Christian woman who participates in Recreational Sex with her husband. Our recreational sex life is open and receptive to having sex with other couples and singles.

With everything, and with labels, there is a hierarchy.

God
Family
Country
Business

So my perfect label would be; Christian Wife & Mother who Supports her Country and is a hardworking MarCom & Events Business Owner (in both the vanilla and lifestyle worlds).

Thank you for the compliment.

Penn State did an analysis of the English Language. 50% of word have a negative tilt to them, 20% are neutral, and 30% are positive words. One thing I learned a long time ago is that we tend to label things we do not like more than we label things we like. So for me, the concept of ethical monogamy implies that monogamy is potentially a bad thing, its not. I am monogamous as I am committed by a marriage vow that I took serious and respect.

What I would hope you would do, and others on this thread, is post your label for yourself. And fill it with positive words. Someday I hope to meet as many of the people on this subreddit as possible. But in the meantime, knowing how you see yourself would bring me joy.

Also - its ok to label other things, including your day. We are always telling our families whether we had a good day or a bad day. Today is my Christmas Tree day! So I have to decided, how big... I love a big Christmas Tree!

Thank you for the post, it is appreciated.

My objection is not based on a misunderstanding. As with all MarCom adventures, the hidden impressions are what is always causing an issue. My issue is with putting the terms "Ethical" with anything, especially "monogamous". The hidden impress is that we should be judging Monogamy as either ethical or not ethical. Sex and ethics have nothing to do with each other. But how one behaves sexually can have ethical implications based on the moral principles that govern those involved in the deed.

I use terminology, "Recreational Sex" specifically to avoid any attempt to distinguish between ethical or non-ethical behavior.

The original definition of Monogamy from the Greek monógamos had nothing to do with sex. The implication of people in a relationship would be having sex as a byproduct of a monogamous relationship came later. The origin of the word (and origins are important), means "to marry once". The term bigamous is defined as being married to two people at once and polygamous is being married to more than one person, will the total people in the relationship as undefined.

I consider myself to be in a monogamous relationship with my husband.

When push comes to show, I am offering my opinion about why I think the term Ethical Non-Monogamy is not the best definition for the social behavior of freely having sex with others and as many sexual partners as one would like. It not a matter of ethics, but rather of trust. Do I trust my husband and does he trust me to put our marriage above all else in our lives.

Part of my belief system came from my masters thesis in terms of how sex is used to market products. Thus came the 4 types of sexual activities. Sex for Courtship, Sex for Love, Sex for Procreation, and Sex for Recreational purposes. When we talk about "Sex Sells", that is very true. But so do other life essentials, where we sleep, who we can trust, food, safety, are all triggers, but none illicit the response that sex does. And because of this, sex is the universal word bond. Merged concepts such as, trust this pill for sex, practice safe sex, that tasted as good as great sex, those strawberries are looking pretty sexy!

For most religions going back thousands of years, sex was primarily for procreation and eventually, over time, evolved into a symbol of love, a ritual of courtship, and then the concept that sex is flat out a rocking good time. The same is true with marketing. "Every Kiss Begins with Kays" draws upon a Sexual Theme for Love during the holidays and mother's day. It involves Courtship on Valentine's Day. Pregnancy tests for procreation themes (*sometimes for recreational sex themes - the know for sure concept), Lubes, Condoms, and other items use the use of sex recreational as their marketing theme. That's the origin from where I came up with this.

So I dislike the term "ethical monogamy" and I think it is misleading and therefore possible to misunderstand. Most people who hear it for the first time, have no basis to relate. Unlike the classic 60s phrase, "Free Love" which everyone pretty much understood what that meant when used to describe people, groups, parties, or movements. I do agree with the implication that ethical non-monogamy addresses the "cheating" concept. I don't try to address that. I assume that people are not cheating and if I find out someone is cheating, I am perfectly fine calling them out for it. Cheating on someone you are in a relationship with is an absolute non-ethical behavior.

Thank you for your post, I hope we dialog more!

LV-Vixen

Thank you. But I am no Einstein, just a Midwestern Girl living in Vegas who is on a mission!

Thank you for the affirmation.

Thank you. I always respect your perspective as you are a wise and frequent poster here!

Thank you for your response. It was much appreciated.