Everyone who direct messages me, thank you! I love hearing from you.

The most common question I get is concerning what it means to be a Christian in the Lifestyle. When I refer to Christian Behaviors in the Lifestyle, what I am talking about is a basic Christian attribute, how you treat others. Being kind, considerate, gentle, honest are attributes that translate from your daily life as a Christian into the bedroom with playmates.

I understand that there are some Christians that enjoy a rougher form of play, perhaps some BDSM, but even in those situations, you can be approaching it with love, kindness, a gentle spirit, being considerate and careful when it comes to the person who is submitting to your will and your pleasure.

Often being a Christian can be about showing restraint in our behaviors. Taking a moment to think before we act and putting what you are about to do into perspective. I realize how hard this can be... I have been dancing all night, really connected with a couple, I am so hot and bothered that I am cannot wait to go back into the playroom and get into a little Recreational Sex... ok - a LOT of Recreational Sex. So before we do this, I am open, and honest, I make sure my expectations are set and I make sure I understand their expectations. Being in Vegas, I often encounter newbie couples and often they will not admit that this is their first time until you ask, and knowing this, I want to make it special, make it comfortable, make the moment their moment.

It is these same behaviors that I apply in my daily vanilla life. I own a business, I always treat everyone with honesty, fairness, and integrity doing that. When I am out enjoying a vanilla evening, I want that evening to be wonderful for everyone. When I meet new people, I want to make sure that they are comfortable around me and that I set them at ease.

And to answer the question I was posed this afternoon... Yes - I love it when my husband grabs my pony tail and takes me doggie. But he has earned that privilege, and he has likely made sure that I have already had an orgasm, and a long time ago he earned my trust so I know I am safe with him. It is actually this Christian foundation that we share that has allowed us to explore our sexualities and find amazing pleasures.